There’s a version of you that’s been whispering in the darkness, warning you of the dangers of being outshone, of being replaced, of being forgotten. You’ve felt her, this shadow aspect of yourself, as a twinge of discomfort when someone else succeeds, as a knot in your stomach when you’re not the center of attention.
The Hidden Mechanism
This is where most people get it backwards: they think jealousy is a weakness, a flaw to be overcome. But what if jealousy is actually a sacred messenger, a signal from your deepest self that you’re not embodying your full power? The part they don’t tell you is that jealousy is a frequency, a vibrational hum that arises when you’re not attuned to your own sovereignty. Ancient priestesses knew this as the “green-eyed goddess,” a symbol of the fierce protectiveness that arises when we’re not honoring our own worth. Neuroscience now proves that this frequency is linked to the brain’s reward system, which is triggered when we perceive a threat to our status or self-image. You experience it as a nagging sense of insecurity, a feeling that you’re not enough.
Here’s what’s actually happening: your body is an antenna, tuning into the frequencies of those around you, and when you’re not grounded in your own sense of self, you start to pick up on the signals of others. This is where the jealousy arises, as a misattunement to your own frequency. Try this micro-practice right now: take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, imagine any tension or discomfort leaving your body, making space for your own unique resonance to emerge. As you do this, repeat the phrase “I am the sovereign of my own frequency” to yourself, allowing the words to sink deeply into your mind and body.
Why You’ve Been Stuck
You’ve been doing everything you can to avoid feeling jealous, to push it away or suppress it, because you thought it was a negative emotion, a sign of weakness. But actually, this avoidance has been keeping you stuck, preventing you from confronting the deeper issues that are driving your jealousy. What you call “jealousy” is actually a hidden gift, a signal that you’re not fully embodied in your own power. The real issue isn’t the jealousy itself, but the disconnection from your own sense of self-worth, the lack of attunement to your own frequency. This disconnection is what’s causing you to feel threatened by others, to feel like you’re in competition with them for attention, validation, or love.
For example, think about the last time you felt jealous. What was it about the other person that triggered you? Was it their success, their beauty, their confidence? Whatever it was, it was likely something that you feel is lacking in yourself, something that you desire but don’t feel like you have. This is where the real work begins, in recognizing and reclaiming those aspects of yourself that you’ve been neglecting or suppressing. By doing so, you’ll start to embody your own sovereignty, to radiate your own unique frequency, and to transmute the jealousy into personal power.
The Real Method
The alchemy of transmutation is not about getting rid of the jealousy, but about shifting the frequency, about attuning to a higher vibration. This is where the concept of sovereignty comes in, the recognition that you are the ruler of your own domain, the captain of your own ship. When you’re fully embodied in your own sovereignty, you’re no longer threatened by others, you’re no longer competing for attention or validation. You’re free to shine your own light, to radiate your own unique frequency, without fear of being overshadowed or replaced.
The mechanism of transmutation is simple yet profound: it’s about recognizing the shadow aspects of yourself, the parts that you’ve been hiding or suppressing, and integrating them into your conscious awareness. This is where the real power lies, in embracing your own complexity, your own multifaceted nature. By doing so, you’ll start to embody your own wholeness, to radiate your own unique frequency, and to transmute the jealousy into personal power. For instance, you can try journaling or meditating on the aspects of yourself that you’ve been neglecting or suppressing, and see how they’re connected to the feelings of jealousy that arise in you.
Your Practice
1. The Recognition Notice the physical sensations in your body when you feel jealous. Where do you feel the tension or discomfort? What are the thoughts or emotions that arise? Allow yourself to fully feel these sensations, without judgment or resistance. As you do this, pay attention to the stories you tell yourself about why you’re feeling jealous. Are you telling yourself that you’re not enough, that you’re not worthy of love or attention? Or are you telling yourself that the other person is somehow better or more deserving than you? Whatever the story is, recognize it as a pattern, a habitual way of thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
2. The Transmutation Take a few deep breaths, and as you inhale, imagine that you’re drawing in the energy of your own sovereignty. As you exhale, imagine that you’re releasing any tension or discomfort, any sense of lack or limitation. Repeat the phrase “I am the sovereign of my own frequency” to yourself, allowing the words to sink deeply into your mind and body. As you do this, visualize a bright, pulsing light at the center of your chest, representing your own unique frequency. Imagine this light expanding, filling your entire body, and radiating outward, filling the space around you. See yourself as a powerful, sovereign being, unthreatened by others, unapologetically yourself.
3. The Integration Take a few moments each day to embody your own sovereignty, to radiate your own unique frequency. This can be as simple as standing up straight, making eye contact with others, or speaking your truth without apology. As you do this, remember that you’re not just changing your own frequency, you’re also changing the world around you. You’re creating a ripple effect of sovereignty, of empowerment, that can touch the lives of those around you. For example, you can try setting aside a few minutes each day to practice a sovereignty-enhancing activity, such as yoga, meditation, or creative expression. As you do this, pay attention to how your body feels, how your mind feels, and how your relationships with others begin to shift.
CLOSING You’re not overcoming jealousy, you’re outgrowing it, transmuting it into the fuel that ignites your own personal power. The moment you stop competing with others, you start becoming the sovereign of your own domain, the ruler of your own frequency. Remember, magic isn’t something you learn, it’s something you stop pretending you don’t know. You’ve always had the power to transmute your jealousy into personal power, to embody your own sovereignty and radiate your own unique frequency. Now, it’s time to remember, to recognize, and to reclaim your own inner wisdom.
✨ Elle Vida | Sparklebox
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